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Finding
Someone Special
by Cheryl Lewis |
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Browsing
through the personal classifieds can be quite frustrating if
you really don’t know what qualities or the type of personality
it is that you are searching for in the person you are seeking,
or in the relationship you are seeking.
Questions
you need to ask yourself before and as you are reading through
the personal sections again are: Why are you searching for someone,
do you want a companion, a serious relationship or just to make
friends with someone new with the hopes of dating. Who are you
looking for, are you searching for someone tall, short, thin,
stout, young, old, divorced, widowed, single, married, and the
list goes on to include all personal choices and preferences
in people.
Discussing
this theory a little more in detail - If you have a problem dating
someone with kids, you should skip over the classifieds that
reveal those people who have kids or you will only be letting
yourself down in the end when you are building a relationship. This
theory pertains to all of the listings, for example, if you are
searching for someone that is just for you, without ever sharing
that person with another, search for someone who has never been
married or who is not a widow (widower). Once you know
whom you are searching for, you will be able to read the personal
classifieds with more confidence and decision making abilities.
Read
the classifieds completely, tracking the writing that interests
you the most so that you can go back and compare, reread or contact
that person. Reading through the entire personal section,
or at very least the section that applies your target interest
group, you will find a variety of people with vast differences
in personalities just through the short descriptions available.
Now
is the tough time to write your contact letter, made much simpler
if you have already created your profile for replies to read
about you. Starting your reply is easy with an opening
such as, ‘I have read your profile and found you are most intriguing
(interesting, exciting, provocative)’ or you could use something
more elaborate such as ‘Your profile interested me to the point
where I had to contact you right away to find out what we have
in common’. While there are many expressions and various
phrases you can use when writing your opening letter, the contact
letter is truly going to be a reflection of your personality,
and what you are searching for in a relationship.
The
first example of ‘I have read your profile and found you are
most intriguing’, would reveal that you are interested. Are
you searching for friendship in the classified section? Try
using the first example building on that sentence to read along
the lines of: ‘I would like the opportunity to get to know you
better and talk a while’. But if you are searching for
a lover through the personals, the second sentence could read: ‘I
really would love to get to know you better, find out what type
of person you are searching for and hopefully to create a match
with you’. The point here is to keep your true feelings
within the boundaries of words, not scaring off someone if you
are just wanting to be friends, while on the other hand if you
are searching for a lover don’t hide behind words of a friendly
chat.
Top
ideas to use in your opening introduction letter are express
your interest to your potential ‘date’ using your writing to
express why you are contacting that person. Reveal to this
person how you propose to meet their needs in their search for
a friend, companion or lover using expressive words such as ‘I
intend to’ or ‘I would like to’ or even ‘I have been searching
through the classifieds and found your profile appealing to me
because’. Give just a few hints about your where you are
located, without revealing to much about your without determining
whether the two of you will continue a conversation. Use
phrases like, ‘I am from the east coast’ or ‘I live south of
California’ or other such general terms, revealing your location
to a particular location through later conversations. Your
initial contact with a proposed ‘date’ should be about the type
of person you are searching for, why you have been using resources
online to search for someone special, and what you are hoping
to gain from a relationship from this person with personal details
revealed through additional conversations as your ‘relationship’ trust
grows.
Online
personals have been created for the user to act anonymously while
investigating the possibilities of friendship, love and for finding
that someone special to spend your life with. Using your
thoughts and feelings through this situation, creatively with
expressive words without misleading readers will allow you to
reach your destination, of finding that someone special, faster
and easier that you would be able to in any other situation. |
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Cheryl
Lewis, freelance writer, married and mother of three. Based in
the Mountains of PA
Cheryl
writes for DrDating – a web site for anyone looking for love
online. We have hundreds of articles, E-Books and links to some
great dating and love sites all over the world. DrDating also
offers reviews of some of the most popular dating sites and books.
http://www.DrDating.com |
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