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Reading Between
the Lines
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Cheryl Lewis |
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Reading through
the personal ads can be a skill, an art in its own. You
may find that skimming through the personal ads has become your
latest habit, searching for the person that meets your profile
needs and desires but without success. Have you been looking
for love but in the wrong profiles, or are you searching for
more that is not written in the lines of a personal ad? If
you read more into a personal ad than what is actually written
in the profile and in the pages of the personal classifieds,
you may find yourself conversing or dating a person that does
not have the same personal dating ideas as you or the same objective
in a relationship which puts you back at the beginning of the
process again.
You
already know that the listings in the personal section are from
people just like you, people who want to meet someone special
to fit into their life so starting with the personal ads is a
great way to meet someone. However, maybe you are
reading the profile of someone wanting to find just a friend,
or maybe the profiles you are reading is someone that is also
hinting towards a search for love in a relationship. You
need to be a distinctive reader.
The
odds are in your favor when searching the personal ads for in
finding a companion or lover. You already know that if
the profiles you are reading are not seeking some type of friendship
or relationship, they would not have created a profile for others
to review. However, the steps in deciding who you will
make contact with can be one of the most difficult in your search.
Your
journey reading the personal classified section will require
the need to look within yourself discovering what you type of
relationship you are truly in search of. Are you searching
for a friend, for a lover, or are you searching for a true lifetime
commitment? Whatever category you place yourself in, choose
the replies and profiles that meet your standards in your search
for a relationship helping you narrow your search, which will
make the personals much easier to sort through. If you
would sit in front of your computer and continue reading all
of the personal ads presented, you may find yourself overwhelmed
with information and choices to be made. Narrowing your
criteria and the idea of what type of relationship you are searching
for creates the best results.
If
you are searching for a friend or companion only through the
personal ads, start with profiles that state this specifically
in their profile, which you will find many. In discussing
profiles of those who are not looking for a serious relationship,
you may find the following phrases used: ‘want to have a good
time’,’ not looking for a relationship’ and ‘not willing to give
my heart away’, ‘just want to spend some time with you’ or ‘seeking
another with a great listening ear’. There are various
words used expressing friendship, companionship and those just
looking to date. Use these expressions and words to help
you sort through the personal ads narrowing your decision among
the many people listed.
Profiles
of people searching for friendship use words that stick out like: ‘looking
for fun’, ‘friendship’, ‘no commitments’, ‘companion wanted’, ‘only
looking for a good time’, ‘need help in building my confidence’, ‘I
want to roller blade in the park all day’, finding words that
express fun and friendship stating no commitments or relationship
will help you sort through the profiles you are reading.
Are
you in search of that someone special to be more than just friends
are? Learn to read more into the written words. Find
descriptions such as ‘looking for love’, ‘searching for that
someone special’, ‘more than friends’, ‘quiet and cozy’, ‘easy
going and lovable’, ‘special times’, ‘treasured moments’, and
words similar to ‘lovable’.
So
what about your profile, read over the words again. Does
the profile really express your thoughts about a relationship,
what type of relationship you are seeking and whom you are expecting
to meet using the personal classifieds? Deciding what type of
person you are searching for, what qualities you desire, and
how far you want the relationship to mature are steps in realizing
you are taking the right direction for meeting that someone special
through the classifieds. Clarify your words, express your
real thoughts and ideas about who you are seeking clearly which
will aid those that are reading your profile connect easily with
you.
Matching
your personality and the relationship you are seeking with the
personal profile or description of another person that is seeking
similar relationships can be tough but using your feelings of
what you want from a relationship as a basis when reading and
sorting through the personals is a great beginning. |
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Cheryl
Lewis, freelance writer, married and mother of three. Based in
the Mountains of PA
Cheryl
writes for DrDating – a web site for anyone looking for love
online. We have hundreds of articles, E-Books and links to some
great dating and love sites all over the world. DrDating also
offers reviews of some of the most popular dating sites and books.
http://www.DrDating.com |
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